Wednesday, April 27, 2011

Many women misuse the term 'misogynist' in media and society in general


Mode One Book Author and Upfront & Straightforward Talk Radio Host Alan Roger Currie has written a new Examiner.com article about the misuse of the term "misogynist" by many women and media types.

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Friday, April 22, 2011

Alan Roger Currie's controversial interview with Jet Magazine's Sophia A. Nelson

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Alan Roger Currie's response to Sophia A. Nelson's Blog Commentary (Click Here: http://www.iaskinc.org/blog/sophiaanelson/?p=552):

"I tried to resist, but I just feel compelled to clarify some things...

1) I, as the Host, never promised to shorten the interview from 90 minutes; My show, "Upfront & Straightforward with Alan Roger Currie," records live on Thursday evenings, and starts at 10:00pm EST. My actual interviews and discussions with guests usually start at approximately 10:20pm EST. My interviews run as long as until 11:55pm EST, and at minimum, until 11:25pm if not many listeners call into the show.

On one end, I did promise Ms. Nelson that the show would not run until 11:55pm EST due to her being under the weather, but I never promised to end the interview before 11:25pm EST. At approximately 11:17pm EST, Ms. Nelson expressed an emphatic disinterest in continuing the interview, so consequently, I excused her from the interview.

2) I had no plans of discussing the idea of "jump off" / casual sex extensively with Ms. Nelson. During the opening portion of my show, I mentioned that I have an upcoming guest who I will interview on Thursday, May 12, 2011 who wrote an article about men who are "demonized" for expressing their desire for casual sex in an upfront, straightforward manner.

That is at least half of what my book, "Mode One: Let the Women Know What You're REALLY Thinking," is all about. It is a book that encourages single heterosexual men to be upfront and straightforwardly honest about their desire for short-term and/or non-monogamous sex, instead of "pretending" as though they are interested in a long-term monogamous relationship with a woman.

When Sophia heard me discuss the nature of my interview with this upcoming guest, she said during our intermission conversation that she thought (paraphrasing) that "casual sex is the wrong objective for men to have, regardless of whether you are upfront and straightforward about it or not." Since Ms. Nelson expressed such a strong disdain for the primary philosophy that my book is based on, I suggested that we discuss it during the interview. She AGREED to do so. I did not obligate her to discuss this issue nor did I "force" the discussion of this issue upon her.

3) I don't want to necessarily speak for Jason (the listener who called in), but I can say this from knowing Jason as a friend since Summer of 2009: Jason does not "hate" Black women. Jason's daughter, obviously, is African-American. Jason actually once prevented a Black woman from being raped, and held the potential rapist in check until the police arrived. If Jason "hated" Black women, why would he exhibit such protective behavior toward a Black woman, and come to her rescue?

Jason and I are similar: We love Black women, but we are NOT willing to accept, condone, or compliment EVERY aspect and facet of their behavior. There are SOME ... and I emphasize the word "some" .... Black women who feel like they should NEVER, EVER be criticized for anything they do and/or say, especially if the criticisms are being expressed out of the mouth of a Black man.

No human being walking this earth is flawless. Black men have strengths and flaws, Black women have strengths and flaws, and men and women of all races, cultures and ethnic groups have their own set of desirable attributes and undesirable attributes.

There is love, and then there is "tough love." Both Bruthas and Sistahs many times need "tough love." Not just by their parents, teachers and elders, but even by their own peers and members of the opposite gender.

There was no "hatred" displayed toward Ms. Nelson during my show. Many of the male listeners who called in simply had a number of opinions that differed from Ms. Nelson's opinions. My main difference of opinion had very little, if anything, to do with her upcoming book, "Black Woman Redefined." I have not read the book yet, so obviously I could never offer a valid opinion and/or evaluation of the contents of her soon-to-be-released hardcover.

My main contention with her and debate had to do with, again, the primary philosophy that is associated with MY book, which is the concept of men expressing their romantic and/or sexual desires, interests and intentions to women in a manner that is more highly self-assured, upfront, unapologetic and straightforwardly honest.

In addition to members of my own gender, you know who has complimented my book? WOMEN. Young and old, educated and uneducated, church-going and non-church going women. Many women in society are tired of being lied to by men, misled by men and manipulated by men. More specifically, they are tired of men "pretending" to truly care for them, and "pretending" to have a genuine interest in developing and maintaining a long-term, emotionally profound, monogamous relationship when in reality, all these men want is a few days, a few weeks or a few months of physically satisfying casual sex.

What I say to men in my book is, "If casual sex is indeed your objective, why not have the balls to let women know that from the get-go? That way, she is the one who is ultimately making the choice to indulge or not to indulge." Men understand that AND women understand that.

Manipulative "head games" have left many men and women hurt, frustrated and cynical. Both of my paperbacks are my effort to discourage single men and single women from employing head games toward one another for self-serving objectives.

And that objective, my fellow bruthas and sistahs, is representative of anything BUT "immaturity" and/or "foolishness."

I wish Ms. Nelson nothing but success with the release of her upcoming book, and the subsequent sales I'm sure she will experience and enjoy."

Alan Roger Currie
Host, "Upfront & Straightforward"
The #1 BlogTalkRadio Talk Radio Podcast Program for Active, Dating Singles
Author, "Mode One: Let the Women Know What You're REALLY Thinking"
and "Upfront and Straightforward: Let the Manipulative Game Players Know What You're REALLY Thinking"

Wednesday, April 20, 2011

Dating Coach Steve "The Dean" Williams accused of slander and libel

Is it considered 'manly' for one man to publicly gossip about the activities of another man's current and/or past relationships? This is the question posed by Book Author and Talk Radio Host Alan Roger Currie after finding out that his former friend and BlogTalkRadio colleague Steve "The Dean" Williams has been spreading lies and gossip-laden remarks about Currie and his past dating relationship with his former girlfriend, Tyler Collins.

The acts of slander and libel started on the popular Attraction & Seduction Community website, PuaHate.com, where Williams posted on the website's discussion forum about his thoughts on Currie's past relationship with Collins. Williams, who has a reputation for harshly criticizing and insulting African-American women, women who are 35 years of age or older, and single mothers, went on the attack against Currie, suggesting that Currie had 'contradicted' his Mode One philosophies and principles by pursuing Collins, who was 42 at the time and has a pre-teen daughter. "Why is Alan going after old Black women with kids?" Williams was quoted as saying on PuaHate.com as well as other podcast interviews.

Currie, who was involved romantically with Collins off-and-on between August 2009 and June 2010, was accused by Williams on PuaHate.com of exhibiting 'unmanly' behavior for expressing hurt after the two broke up in mid-February 2010, and later after the two broke up a second time in mid-June 2010.

Williams was formerly a friend of Currie's, with the two co-hosting a podcast program entitled, The Black Book Café from October 2006 until April 2007. Williams moved to the BlogTalkRadio Internet Radio Network in late April 2007 with a talk radio podcast program entitled Men on Dating, where Currie would act as a regular guest co-host and dating & relationships commentator.

In June 2007, Currie left Williams' program and started his own BlogTalkRadio program entitled Balls Out Talk with Mode One, which was later renamed to Upfront & Straightforward with Alan Roger Currie. Between 2008 and 2010, Currie and Williams were guests on each other's BTR talk radio podcast programs, the last time being mid-July 2010 when Williams was a featured guest on Currie's program to discuss the art of seducing women and pros and cons of the Attraction & Seduction Community.

"I can handle men or women criticizing me for something I have actually done, but don't offer criticisms and/or insults about fictitious activities, events and behavior," said Currie, referring to Williams' comments about his past relationship with Ms. Collins. "This man (Williams) is spreading lies about me, half-truths, and gross distortions about a relationship that he knows very little about. It is really sad to see someone engage in such immature gossip, and stab you in the back after initially referring to you as a 'friend.' Our former friendship is permanently severed," added Currie.

Currie has challenged Williams to 'clear the air' publicly on his talk radio show, but Williams has refused his invitation, and has avoided speaking to Currie on the phone. "I thought 'real men' talk out their differences like men, but obviously, Williams' definition of a 'real man' is totally different than mine. I have never avoided speaking to a man over-the-phone in my entire adult life. Very few men intimidate me in real life, let alone, via the telephone," said Currie.

Currie has stated that his 'beef' with Williams started in early-to-mid October 2010 when Williams expressed disappointment and frustration that he was not invited to be a featured speaker at The Direct Approach Dating Summit for Men 2010 which was held November 20 & 21, 2010 in London, England. "My question is, if Williams 'lost respect' for me because of the behavior I exhibited while in a relationship with Ms. Collins, why was he a guest on my show in mid-July 2010? Ms. Collins and I broke up for the second time in mid-June 2010. Why did he remain in communication with me (by phone and e-mail) up until early-to-mid October 2010? The truth is Williams started his 'beef' with me because he felt overlooked by the organizers of the Direct Approach Dating Summit. He was frustrated. All of his behavior, comments and actions since have been immature, fabricated, and vindictive," added Currie. "The facts speak for themselves."